Depression and relationships

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Please don't be sad for what is happening in my life right now.  It has been a long time in coming and much of it is my own fault.... but I want to let people I care about know why I haven't been on DA as much.

I've been depressed.  Really depressed for over 10 years.  18 months or so ago, my wife gave me an ultimatum, with a lot of strings attached. I became even more depressed, tried many things, even Rx drugs, nothing really made a difference. But I had joined this site to start sharing pictures, then forgot about it. I came back last September and started finding other people to interact with. Haven't really shared my photos as much as I thought I would because I was too busy interacting with other people. It helped my depression.... very much so. There have been bumps along the way, people I was getting to know who just dropped off here and I miss them... some terribly, but overall, it has been good for me.

I started looking forward to seeing what other people were doing, saying. I started following other people, artists, models, photographers, & writers as well. And as this has happened, I have changed from the person I was. I'm much more open and honest. I don't hide my feelings as much, even if that means I say that I am sad or unhappy when before I would try to fake it and put on a happy facade.  But over the last 18 months, my wife and I have grown further apart, not together. A week ago, we decided to end our marriage because I can't put her through my depressiveness, and I'm not getting better and she deserves to be happy.

I'm not easy to live with, I'm not a saint, I'm just a normal depressed person who isn't going to just snap out of it (as I have been told to do many times). So my kids are not happy with me, neither is my wife, but I can't keep pretending that everything is ok, that I'm alright, that I will be who I was before, and I'm finally starting to become reconciled to that.
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virnagray's avatar
I am so sorry, that you are going through this,
It is a very hard situation to be on,
I am happy that you are understanding and willing to talk about it,
and I am also glad that you have found people that you can be honest with.

It is really nice to meet you and I look forward to see some more of your pics:)

Have a nice week my friend!